Prenup– a written contract between two people who are about to marry, setting out the terms of possession of assets, treatment of future earnings, control of the property of each, and potential division if the marriage is later dissolved. These agreements are fairly common if either or both parties have substantial assets, children from a prior marriage, potential inheritances, high incomes, or have been “taken” by a prior spouse. (Def from Legal Dictionary)
Prenuptial is a word many couples would cringe to hear mentioned. And if you happened to mention that you want one, you are either “unromantic” or a “gold-digger”. It’s one of those things that are a blessing but people are so touchy about because it spells out the possibility of a separation a.k.a. a failed marriage. No one wants to imagine that their marriage will ever end!
When he proposes, he gets you a diamond ring, makes the wedding plans, buys you an exquisite bridal gown, walks you down the aisle, and after taking THE VOW you go on to have beautiful babies and live happily ever after, right?
Please! You don’t really believe this happens outside movies, do you? (Wait… DO YOU?!)
Check out this version from the real world: he proposes, you walk down the aisle and takes the TILL DEATH sentence, then you have babies and as time goes by, he changes into this person you have no idea of. He becomes a drunk, or cheats on you, or hits you around… now that’s real life!
Sometimes, he just falls out of love. BAM! Shit happens!
So, I fail to understand why people are so touchy about making the agreement that, in case of a separation, this and that is mine; this house is mine and that is yours, and this amount of money goes to the children’s upkeep…blah blah blah. What is so bad about that? The cruel honesty that things may go haywire?
“Prenups are unromantic”, many say. If you ask me, a prenuptial is as romantic as saying I trust and love you enough to not want any squabbles or ugly divorce proceedings in case things don’t work out as we want.
That is love! Mature love that understands that crazy things happen and it’s better to shield each other from it if it does.
Personally, I plan never to get hitched but if I ever do, I am definitely getting me a prenuptial. I have seen enough shitty marriages to be real with myself and my future hubby.